httpss://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nstZa3sUVlc
It begins, “Dustin Hoffman sexually harassed me when I was 17.” Then I give the details: When I was a senior in high school in New York City, interning as a production assistant on the set of the Death of a Salesman TV film, he asked me to give him a foot massage my first day on set; I did.
WEEK ONE. January 21, 1985 During lunch I had to put some chairs in Dustin Hoffman’s room.
WEEK TWO. January 28, 1985 Dustin said to me today, “So, did you have sex over the weekend like I told you?”.
I’ll go out in the snow at 10 a.m. to get Kate [Reid] an anchovy pizza, and I’ll order lunch from three different places so she can entertain her friends with champagne and caviar, but I’m not going to let Dustin have his hands all over me.
By the time Dustin Hoffman asked me to give him a foot rub, I’d learned to reconcile mild humiliation with desire for attention or access.
People use the term grooming to describe what sexual predators do with children so they can reap the benefits, but what if they groom us so other men can reap the benefits? Did the older guys in high school pave the way for Dustin Hoffman who paved the way for the other actor who paved the way for all the other older men I’ve known were bad news but whom I’ve been drawn to anyway? At 49, I understand what Dustin Hoffman did as it fits into the larger pattern of what women experience in Hollywood and everyw.